A Wives' Bill of Rights
-by Frances Fairfax. First published in the Spring 1994 issue of the Sweetheart Connection.
-modified by Romana Annette...Spring 2003.

We have the right to know about our husbands' crossdressing, preferably before marriage, but certainly when our husbands begin to make crossdressing a significant factor in their lives and wish to contact support groups.
We have the right to honest and open communication with our husbands, with negotiation and compromise on both sides, particularly in regard to allocation of family resources and in matters pertaining to telling our children. Any patterns of selfishness and deception must cease.
We have a right to an honest assessment from our husbands pertaining to the seriousness of their gender identity, that is not inconsistent with the observed seriousness of their expression. Acknowledgement of degree does not imply any particular permission.
We have the right to require the services of a third-party, a therapist, to help sort things out. Once we agree upon a therapist, we expect our husbands to dutifully see this therapist and listen.
We have the right not be pushed to accept things before we have had time to learn enough about them and to begin to get used to them.
We have the right to our husbands as men, the men we married, men who maintain a positive, healthy masculinity while exploring their femininity and seek neither to evade responsibilities nor to appropriate our own feminine roles.  
We have the right to our husbands' masculine male bodies. Neither partner in a marriage has the right to alter body features or hormone levels without the full knowledge and consent of the other.
We have the right to contact and attend support groups for ourselves that promote our own personal growth and well-being, help us understand our husbands' needs, and provide tools for relationship-building.
We have the right be part support groups for our husbands that encourage their feminine development without denigrating healthy masculinity, that welcome us as full members on an equal basis with our husbands, and that fully support relationship commitments.
We have the right not be mocked and demeaned by sexually explicit or otherwise offensive conversation, dress and behavior at group meetings.
We have the right not to be marginalized in our relationship. We have the right to be an equal partner in all matters, and we are not to be ignored, shunned, abandoned, threatened, or verbally or physically abused.
We have the right to give positive input concerning makeup, hair, clothing, hemlines, and deportment, and our advice should not be belittled or totally ignored. We are not to be subjected to any gross or embarassing presentation, at home or in public. We expect our husbands to gain some skills and understand that there is a difference between looking like a woman and being like a woman.
We have the right not to be pressured to attend group gatherings at public locations, night clubs, or other places that pose security risks.
We have the right not to be pressured accompany our husbands' on solo outings en femme. Agreement on solo outings needs to be negotiated beforehand, and the frequency of such accompanied outings should not change radically within any given interval of time.
We have the right to be asked for our permission before our clothes, make-up, jewelry or other personal items are borrowed.
We have the right to personal time in which to get in touch with our own femininity, pursue our personal growth and work on creative projects.
We have the right to expect local, regional and national gender organizations and conventions to fully support and promote these rights in their programs and policies.